The Power of Negativity

Let’s embrace negativity for a minute. That’s right, stare right at it and dig in a little deeper. There’s so much out there about being positive that I got swept up in eradicating negativity. Staying in the flow with Reiki, I erroneously thought I had to push away all negative thoughts, did you?

For a while, I made it my personal job to strap on my backpack of positivity spray and blast out all the negativity out from myself and others to keep everything shiny and clean. Rather than reach my goal of becoming a beacon of positivity, I found myself hyperfocused on exterminating any negativity or sadness. Rather than sitting with my anger, I pushed it away. My poor friends and family as I passionately preached about storm clouds and sunshine, while ignoring my own full-spectrum of emotions. For years I focused on fighting anger and rejecting outbursts from anyone.

Disinfecting Earth view- what a shift as I now embrace all challenges. Image thanks to Image by Ajay kumar Singh from Pixabay 

My determination to “get rid of negativity” became judgmental in my push for perfection. Once I made time to pause, as the stress of COVID increased, I realized there was no way to push through these heavy emotions. So I learned to pause in that moment and instead allow myself to become the observer. I learned to sit with it and instead watch the flow of thoughts and emotions in order to learn what was underneath. In the darker depths of the flow.

Reiki Principals to the Rescue

In this forced quiet, where I could no longer talk about staying in playfulness without having my head bit off, I learned the power of silence. I came back to the Reiki Principle- be kind to all living things. To apply this I have to forgive myself for being angry and engaging in conflict. I was hurting, just in a different way from those around me. I needed to sit in my waves of sadness, anger, and frustration, alone and find the calm floating on the waves.

There’s an age old parable that tells of a young boy and his grandfather. The young boy is struggling with dark impulses. His grandfather tells him that inside each person is a wolf of light and a wolf of dark. The one that wins is the one that the young boy chose to feed. I think this was a meme I saw, but it hit me hard at that moment. He didn’t say, kill the wolf of the dark” did he? He said choose which one you feed. 

We all have the light and dark within us. The key is to embrace them both and then chose which to focus on…

My conflicts were tests for me to apply my “wisdom” and be compassionate. So compassion is what I gave myself, and in allowing myself to pause, I found grace and peace. I could not rush myself or anyone else to hurry through their suffering. I could not rush myself or anyone to see that they were in charge of their experience. I could not rush myself or anyone to see that we all have the wisdom within us when we make time to get quiet. I had to simply get quiet, find my inner calm, and wait out the storm.

Embracing Conflict

As I dove deeper into my Reiki practice, I learned it’s actually about softening and embracing ALL emotions. Feelings are simply indicators of different levels of stress and emotional holding. With energy healing work I learned it’s not the power of positivity but rather the power of love that heals. So dig into negativity…sit with it… deep belly breath and exhale… why am I feeling this way? Then just wait for answer to come… That is the key.

Wow! How empowering. Here’s another Reiki principal:

Be honest and clear. I must learn to face every part of the person in the mirror with love. That’s the most important thing. I no longer reject my negativity, it’s simply my clue to pause, breathe, and go outside to look up at the beauty. Go enjoy the trees, birds, and hum of nature. Go out and realign my energy flow. When I get frustrated or irritated, that’s my stress valve needing a release and nothing more… Being angry, sad, frustrated, resentful does not mean have i have less value, it simply means I need to pause and release, reconnect, and restore my flow.

Energy Balancing with Reiki and Breathwork

By embracing ALL emotions, I am now being honest. I no longer try to censor Bad Mood Bertha. Instead, I see her and pause, and then I ask myself how I am hurting. Negativity has become my inner barometer of unintentionally allowing stress to build and boil into a storm. It’s my clue to go outside and ground with a reiki meditation. I breathe deep into my belly as I expand my awareness up and out , then exhale while releasing down into the Earth. All my stress can then flow out into the Earth and be recycled. I’m so grateful to my reiki practice to know how that feels.

credit Image by Gordon Johnson from Pixabay

Learning to get centered and flush out the energetic core of your being is powerful! If you too are ready to practice Self-Mastery with guided meditations or Holy Fire Reiki, reach out. I offer group sessions and private sessions for you to tap into your inner quiet and find your connection to wisdom. Book Now.

Reiki Classes Offer a Deep Healing for Each Student

After practicing Reiki for many years, I love to point out to all of my students how deeply healing the class is for each of them. The attunements that we go through during class allow for heavy, stuck energy to fall away. This enables the energy body to flow into a more elevated and harmonious frequency for optimal wellness. While learning the history of Reiki is important for reverence, the technique and foundation for proper practice is essential. 

Reiki classes are a healing


With Reiki, staying open and being grounded is the key to good flow. I like to imagine that I am like a waterfall, tapping into the higher frequencies of the heavens above and allowing it to flow all the way down through my body out into the earth. My hands are just simply that connector that provides that connection of elevated frequency to my clients. I can also use my eyes to channel Reiki as well as my voice as I chant and sing with focus on the person for whom I am holding space for a deep release and healing. I teach all of these practices in class.

During class, not only does a student learn about the practice of Reiki, but each student also has an opportunity to dig deep into self awareness. The goal is to learn how to walk with love and compassion to allow for the deep wisdom and grace to flow through and ripple outward. The more I practice Reiki the more I learn the importance of identifying where I am on my path and respecting others journey as their own.

As a Reiki teacher, I strive to be always learning more to help each person in a way that makes sense to them. Each student will gain more clarity the more they practice. This is the foundation of a Reiki practice, daily self-treatments to have more insight into the inner way of being. The more we practice, the more we are present, the more clarity we have. This is the way of Reiki.

The key to healing the subconscious and reprogram how I react to situations is by visualizing healing myself. While in a deeply meditative Reiki state, I make sure Reiki flows through my entire being starting with hara centering. If I am unable to sense a nice flow through that area I will go through a Reiki self-treatment starting at the root chakra, just below the tailbone, then moving up after I sense the flow.

Next I move up to the hara center point which is the Tan den (aka dantien) 2” below and behind the bellybutton. Once I can feel an expansive flow of Reiki, I move out to the hips and be sure that the flow moves out from the center point. The 3rd chakra receives some love next. I pause here at the base of the sternum until I can sense flow out the front and back of the chakra. I love to imagine a powerful yellow geyser of light out in front as well as behind me. Once the back feels flowing, I draw in healthy energy from behind me. 🌟

 The 4th chakra or the heart-center is my next area of focus. I love to stay here and make sure it expand both out the front and the back and then scan to be sure the entire aura at all the layers are nice and flowing. Then the 5th Throat chakra receives a good Reiki Session. I check the way out to the sides of the aura here as well for good flow and release of heavy slow energy that may be stacking up causing neck and shoulder pain. After this is the 6th or third eye. Again here I will check front and back with scanning to be sure there is good flow and around to the sides especially. Here I will sit to be sure I sense good flow to both the throat and entire head for best connection to intuition and my guides.

Finally I bring my awareness to the entire crown and check for flow up and out the back of the head and center crown and sides to the front. Once this has been completed I am able to work on others. This is essential to start the day so that stress or emotions do not get stuck and begin to stack up causing pain or aches.

In class we cover the importance of all these things. I highly encourage each student to carve out time daily for self-care with Reiki self-treatment because it’s the best way to get to know oneself and stay on the path to healing through self-awareness. Level I continues to awaken senses until 21 days out. Level II attunement does the same. Practice continues to deepen that healing and is very essential to the heart of Reiki practice.

There is so much covered in class I do recommend each student make time to come out to Reiki Circles and practice. This time offers so much learning and support for everyone, especially me. 💖🦋🌸 If you are ready to begin your inner journey, reach out!