Let’s embrace negativity for a minute. That’s right, stare right at it and dig in a little deeper. There’s so much out there about being positive that I got swept up in eradicating negativity. Staying in the flow with Reiki, I erroneously thought I had to push away all negative thoughts, did you?
For a while, I made it my personal job to strap on my backpack of positivity spray and blast out all the negativity out from myself and others to keep everything shiny and clean. Rather than reach my goal of becoming a beacon of positivity, I found myself hyperfocused on exterminating any negativity or sadness. Rather than sitting with my anger, I pushed it away. My poor friends and family as I passionately preached about storm clouds and sunshine, while ignoring my own full-spectrum of emotions. For years I focused on fighting anger and rejecting outbursts from anyone.
My determination to “get rid of negativity” became judgmental in my push for perfection. Once I made time to pause, as the stress of COVID increased, I realized there was no way to push through these heavy emotions. So I learned to pause in that moment and instead allow myself to become the observer. I learned to sit with it and instead watch the flow of thoughts and emotions in order to learn what was underneath. In the darker depths of the flow.
Reiki Principals to the Rescue
In this forced quiet, where I could no longer talk about staying in playfulness without having my head bit off, I learned the power of silence. I came back to the Reiki Principle- be kind to all living things. To apply this I have to forgive myself for being angry and engaging in conflict. I was hurting, just in a different way from those around me. I needed to sit in my waves of sadness, anger, and frustration, alone and find the calm floating on the waves.
There’s a parable that resonates with me which tells of a young boy and his grandfather. The young boy is struggling with dark impulses. His grandfather tells him that inside each person is a wolf of light and a wolf of dark. The one that wins is the one that the young boy chose to feed. There was an Aha- moment. He didn’t say, kill the wolf of the dark” did he? He said choose which one you feed.
My conflicts were tests for me to apply my “wisdom” and be compassionate. So compassion is what I gave myself, and in allowing myself to pause, I found grace and peace. I could not rush myself or anyone else to hurry through their suffering. I could not rush myself or anyone to see that they were in charge of their experience. I could not rush myself or anyone to see that we all have the wisdom within us when we make time to get quiet. I had to simply get quiet, find my inner calm, and wait out the storm.
Embracing Conflict
As I dove deeper into my Reiki practice, I learned it’s actually about softening and embracing ALL emotions. Feelings are simply indicators of different levels of stress and emotional holding. With energy healing work I learned it’s not the power of positivity but rather the power of love that heals. So dig into negativity…sit with it… deep belly breath and exhale… why am I feeling this way? Then just wait for answer to come… That is the key.
Here’s another Reiki principal:
Be honest and clear. I must learn to face every part of the person in the mirror with love. That’s the most important thing. I no longer reject my negativity, it’s simply my clue to pause, breathe, and go outside to look up at the beauty. Go enjoy the trees, birds, and hum of nature. Go out and realign my energy flow. When I get frustrated or irritated, that’s my stress valve needing a release and nothing more… Being angry, sad, frustrated, resentful does not mean have I have less value, it simply means I need to pause and release, reconnect, and restore my flow.
Energy Balancing with Reiki and Breath-work
By embracing ALL emotions, I am now being honest. I no longer try to censor my Bad Mood. Instead, I see her and pause, and then I ask myself how I am hurting. Negativity has become my inner barometer of unintentionally allowing stress to build and boil into a storm. It’s my clue to go outside and ground with a reiki meditation. I breathe deep into my belly as I expand my awareness up and out , then exhale while releasing down into the Earth. All my stress can then flow out into the Earth and be recycled. I’m so grateful to my reiki practice to know how that feels.
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